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Chapter 1

What is a value?

• Modern theory by Shalom Schwartz: “Belief about trans-situational goal of varying importance that serve as a guiding principles in the life of a person or group"

• 6 Key characteristic of values

  • Link with emotion
  • Motivate Action
  • Apply across context
  • Standard for moral judgement
  • Ranked in importance
  • Include trade-off

• Schwartz’s values survey: people all have these values but varies in importanc

  • Achievement
  • Power
  • Tradition
  • Security
  • Conformity
  • Universalism
  • Benevolence
  • Stimulation
  • Self Direction
  • Hedonism

• The price of carrying about something: To care about anything, the more difficult and compromise of other things in life

• Milton Rokeach distinction of values

  • Terminal Values: end goal/ ultimate objective
  • Instrumental values: means towards end

• Carol Ryff’s six dimension of Psychological well being

  • Autonomy
  • Environmental Mastery
  • Personal Growth
  • Positive relation with others
  • Purpose in life
  • Self Acceptance the hardest one

Chapter 2: Values & Relationship

• Attachment in relationship
• compromise in values
• Changing too much value for a relationship may let you lose who you actually are <It’s counter productive to put love in the top of your values hierachy>
• People always sent out signal of whom they are

Chapter 3: Where do values come from

• A combination of 1. us, 2. others
• Try to figure out which of your values come from others- Margaret mead cultural relatives
• A high family value society results in corruption- Jonathan Haidt’s Moral foundation theory - Care/harm
  • Fairness/cheating
  • Loyalty/Betrayal
  • Authority/Subversion
  • Sancitity/Degraduate
  • Liberty Oppression

Chapter 4: Identifying your core values

Tools to identify your values

1. Dessert island exercise
2. Funeral: What do you want people to say about you
3. Frustration: What normally sets you off
4. Ranking and prioritizing

Chapter 5: Changing your values

• A change in values normally resulted from a big trauma, since it a experience of one values changing
• PTG post traumatic growth can result in 5 ways
• improve in relationship with others
  • New possibility in life
  • Improve in personal strength
  • Improve in appreciation in life
  • Spiritual development
• Also need a active rumination in cognitive reappraisal. Be aware that a social group and culture will very help in this process, and an optimistic person will be more related to openness in experience
• Debrowski, a psychologist studying PTG after war he found out about
  • Positive disintegration
  • since a drama in life is a destroyer of one ego, a cognitive dissonance is required for changing in values
  • A void is left unfilled, and ew have to positively filled it
• Leon Festinger, the origin of cognitive dissonace started from a cult
  • group of researcher pretend to be cult believers to study their habits
  • a cult that alien is going to invade the earth, and when the date come no alien appears
  • They believe that they will give up and go home however, they become even more strong believer since they can get rid of alien
  • he explain that since the cult believer have a strong valeus in community in a cult and believe what they do is for a greater good they are not willing to give out their value
  • there is 2 main way to change the trajectory of valeus
    • expectation reality, fuck reality im beliving in my expectation
      • shift in expectation, which is harder to do so since you have to give up your initial values

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